The new book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother has created a lot of controversy. I haven't read the book but I've read a few of the reviews against it. I came across a Christian perspective today and it resonated with me. Here's the link.
God has entrusted our kids to us and they are not our own. I have to let go of defining success as excelling at multiple extra-curricular activities including music, sports, and a second/third language; getting good grades at school and ultimately completing university; getting a good job; getting married and having children. I need to constantly remind myself that I just need to be a good role model and teach and encourage my kids to follow God's will for their lives. Success is when God says, "Well done, good and faithful servant."